October 2nd, 2007 Jamie
A couple posts ago I gave you some tips about how to get through homesickness in college. I hope they’re helping you, and today I have a few more ways you can give yourself a happiness boost when you’re feeling lonely.
- Hang Around on Weekends
You might be wondering how not going home can help you get over homesickness, but it really can make a difference. Most of the major socializing in college goes on over the weekend, so by going home to visit you miss out on hanging out with people you meet on campus during the week. I had a really hard time being away from home, so I made myself a promise not to go home until Thanksgiving—it gave me time to adjust to being away from Mom & Dad, and helped get me motivated to meet new people so I would have something to do on the weekend.
- Ask for (or Send!) a Care Package
If there is something you really miss from home—Mom’s chocolate chip cookies, your vintage Converse, or a blanket your best friend made you—ask someone to send it out to you. Why would I suggest sending care packages yourself? My mom sent me a box every finals week, and quite a few in between, so one time I returned the favor and sent her one—she loved it. Working to make someone else happy is one of the very best ways to make yourself feel better. It helps you focus on something other than feeling sad, and it can be pretty fun getting creative enough to put together a box on a college budget.
- Invite Someone from Home to Visit
This one is a double-whammy. Inviting someone to visit not only gets you some quality time with someone you miss from home—a boyfriend/girlfriend, relative, or friend—but also helps you get excited about sharing your new life with them. Spend some time thinking about the cool things you want to show them–like your dorm room, the best place to get Mexican food at 2 a.m., some weird sculpture in the art department, or the best view in the city.
Have more suggestions? I’d love to hear them! Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with your suggestions or questions, or leave a comment below!